Dear Joseph Nguyen,
A time where I could go back and change it would probably
asking this one girl to prom. It was my Senior in High School and Prom was
probably two months away. I was going to ask one of my close girlfriends. It
was April 13th, 2012 and it was the day I was going to ask my friend
(won’t say her name) to Prom. She and I have been close friends for about two
years. I asked two of my boys to help me decorate her car. I spelled out
“PROM?” in baby blue tape and with flowers on the hood of her car. I was
skipping my 6th hour to do all of this and I had to hide in a bush
for like 30 minutes because school wasn’t out yet. It was after school and she
came out with a bunch of people behind her and she got up to her car and then I
came up and gave her a rose and asked she would go to prom with me. She said
yes! I was so excited and happy and she was as well.
I
got home and told my parents and they were happy for me. I told many of my
friends I had a Prom date now and didn’t have to worry about it. I asked her
what dress she was going to wear it was going to be silver and I was like I’ll
get a silver tux to match her with. I was thinking in my mind, “This Senior
year is going to keep getting better and better.”
It
was about three weeks after I had asked her out to Prom. She texted saying, “Joe,
we have to talk.” When a girl says that, a guy knows it’s something serious.
She told me she couldn’t go with Prom with me anymore. She told me the reason
was that her mom wouldn’t let me because I was not the same race as her. The
girl was European and I’m Asian. When she told me this I was pretty sad and
devastated. In my mind I was like why would she tell me after three weeks after
I asked her. I told my boys about this situation and they told me that she
wanted to bail out and go with someone else. I didn’t know what to believe, I
was confused for a couple days.
The
next day I saw her and we both had the same English class together and we sat
next to each other. It was pretty awkward. She didn’t say a word to me that day
or even looked at me. My friends asked me why she was like that and I had no
answer.
The
last two months of high school and she still didn’t really say anything to me.
I don’t know if she was stubborn or if I was stubborn. I just felt like she
should’ve said the first word because she was the one that wouldn’t go to Prom
with me. It was weird for me. I was like, “Yo this is mad weird” to one of my
boys. She didn’t even talk to any of my boys either which was weird. They told
me to find another date which I eventually did.
If
I could go back and change this I would do so in different ways. Maybe I should
have asked her if her mom was fine with me going to prom with her. I would also
change how we interacted in English class. Maybe I should’ve been the one that
talked to her first because she was probably shy or embarrassed to talk to me.
If I would have done these things or at least tried too, our friendship
would’ve still been strong at the end of the school year and till this day. I
also regret not asking her to sign my yearbook. In the end the past is the
past, you can’t really do much about it but move on. It’s called life.
I
haven’t talked to her for a very long time now and I don’t want to bring this
situation up even if we do have a conversation. I see her sometimes on campus
and all we do is really just say hi to each other and go our separate ways. Sometimes I do miss talking to her and venting to her. Hopefully we can rekindle our friendship one day.
Love,
Jn